2020 — At My Pace

2019 was such a year for me, this is the last time I am going to reference it but it is really important to give context as to why 2020 was such a groundbreaking year for me. At the end of 2019, I spoke with my brother about certain decisions I was about to make but I was really scared about the outcome and the risks involved. The advise I got from my brother is what guided most of my 2020 and what kept me at peace.

You have to learn to do things at your pace, I know what you are great at but you are busy chasing what does not matter to you. Take your time, do your thing. I have gone ahead of you so you don’t have to rush things. Take your time, Go at your pace. My brother said.

I took my brother’s advice to heart and decided that I was going to try to let those words guide me. ‘Try’ because I knew how difficult it might be. I made all the decisions I was thinking about and decided it was time to do what mattered to me, take my time to figure things out and move from then. So January 2020, I quit my job, I needed a break from chasing the bag, I needed to chase me, find myself and the things that I loved. I wanted to be at peace with me so I can extend myself wholly to everyone I come into contact with. This has happened to be the best decision of my life. Truthfully, there has been some backsliding here and there but I have moved forward mostly at my pace.

2020 for me has been such a great year, a year of courage, a year of fighting fear with Joy, a year of finding my voice, a year of being vulnerable, a year of hoping to find love but learning to love myself better. A Year of all-round growth. I have categorised my year into some important headlines;

God/Faith

At the end of 2019, I have found God in a way that no pastor could preach to me. I had started building a father/son relationship with God and I was slowing developing my trust in God for everything. This became the main thing for 2020. I knew that I had gotten all I had at the point because God was on my side and I was so determined to continue building a relationship with Him. I wanted to know God more because I realized that in Him, I found out more about who I was. And fam, God does not leave anyone stranded. In situations where I thought was th worst, God came through for me either through answered prayers or peace to weather the storm. I don’t think I could have gone through the year without God by my side. I love God with all of me and this love has made me want to do everything for him. Surrendering my life, decisions and actions to God in 2020 was the best thing to ever do because omo, E get why!!!!!

Career

This was one area in which I took things at my pace. I remember after quitting my job, I was not sure how I was going to make money. The only thing I was sure about a career was that I didn't want to take a job that will take 100% of my time. I needed it to be at my pace. Something that I could decide when to do and when not to. Not something that leaves me out of breath daily. When an opportunity came, I was so glad to take because it solved my two main concerns, money and slow. This year gave me the opportunity to do things I had not done before, I led a marketing team and that responsibility is one of the greatest feeling ever.

Personal Projects

This was it for me. Everything I had put on hold for years came to pass this year. I started a community of young people coming together to talk about Christ called the Apejo. This has been the most fulfilling experience, to get the chance to build a community and regularly come together to talk about Christ is the greatest feeling. This platform gave birth to a podcast which has gone far and wide to bless so many people. We have also been able to take on so many outreach programs and I can’t be more grateful how this platform has blessed people.

My coaching and social entrepreneurship brand also got revived. At the beginning of the year, I was not sure what to do with the brand and in a way till this point, I am still not really sure. But one thing I have been able to achieve this year is to build a structure and extend the brand to help people. The brand has been invited to speak in different areas and has been able to set up events to help people get clarity in the different areas of their lives. I have been learning to navigate this every day but I am truly grateful for the opportunity and loving every minute of it.

Relationships

Haha, I remember entering into 2020 and saying this is the year of finally getting a girlfriend after 6years of being single. Guess who did not wear matching pyjamas for Christmas photoshoot. Yes, you are right Me which means in January we will have been single for 7years.

In the search of the significant other, I decided to become a better significant other. I wanted to be ready for whoever I was going to meet. Started reading books, listening to messages and developing a foundation that’s strong enough to build a relationship on. I also went back to therapy because I realized I had some baggage my partner would not be able to handle, I needed to deal with it on my own. This experience has been so fulfilling.

Asides from this, I was also able to grow my current relationships with friends and family and also develop new ones. My family and friends have been a stronghold to me this year and I would not trade any of them for anything in this world. Thank you guys so much. Love you.

2021 we move to find the significant other and wearing matching pyjamas.

One of the most important things I did for myself in 2020 was to define my measure of success. To define what success meant to me. This definition gave me peace and purpose. This definition has helped me in knowing what to focus my energy on and what to spend the rest of my life trying to do.

My measure of success is to ‘SOW SEEDS’

Highlights

My highlights for 2020.

2021

2020 has been the year to build the foundation. Clear out every outstanding and create for me the opportunity to start with a strong and solid foundation. 2020 was the year to find clarity to produce vision and possibilities. 2020 was the year to taxi on the runway.

2021 is the year to run with the vision and possibilities. 2021 is to keep building but not from the ground again. 2021 is the take-off and keep yourself at the highest altitude. 2021 is that year. New things are going to happen

It is Yours Nifemi. Go get it, My G